Papa is growing up. Not only your father, gray and irritable, where he once was young and irritable, but your father in general. According to the most recent figures from the Office of National Statistics, the average age to become a first-time father in the UK is now 33.6 years old, which equates to a year-on-year increase since at least 2016. Those figures pretty much coincide with a 2021 YouGov poll in which Brits recommended 30 as the best age for a man to have his first child. So what’s with the decade’s third anomaly?
the average number of my friends
I’m an average guy in my early thirties, I have an average number of friends. But only three men I know have children. One opted to get it out of the way first in his mid-20s and then focused on his career. That’s an inconsistency. The other two became first-time parents in their mid to late 30s.
Wealth Managers Moneyfarm data for 2022
The reasons for delay are myriad, but a recurring theme is that raising a child isn’t cheap. In fact, data from wealth managers MoneyFarm for March 2022 calculated the cost of raising a child to 18 in the UK at between £129,000 and £327,000. Now, clearly, you don’t need a lump sum amount to have a child; You can pay for your kids in installments just like on your smartphone. Even then. Add to that the cost of buying a home, and you know, living, and it all starts to pile up.
I know that like most men, I am unsure about having children. I’m worried that I won’t be able to afford them. I worry that having kids will stop me from achieving what I want to do as a career. And to be honest, I love my freedom. I have an abstract notion of having kids in my 40s, but if it did, I’d be in my mid-50s by the time they were teenagers. By the time they’re starting their careers, meeting partners, and having kids of their own, I could well outdo Daisy. As for my own parents (now in their mid-60s), the chances of seeing their grandchildren have doubled. It is not thin for anyone until the elixir of eternal life miraculously emerges from their potato slice.
Kieran, 30, a creative agency from London
I’m not the only one who feels this way. Kieran, 30, is the art director at a creative agency in London. “My partner and I are currently going through the process of renting and figuring out how do we shop?” He told me “At the moment, I don’t think I can have a child financially or physically because the space in our flat isn’t big enough. Right now, having kids is more of a financial issue than anything – you’ll need one in a convenient area. Needing to buy a bigger house, then on top of the mortgage, you want to be able to give your family the life it deserves.
Dr. Jasmine Kelland, Human Resources at Plymouth Business School
Providing shelter for your children is a very important requirement. Home prices in the UK have been taking a mic for some time, and the current housing crisis has made things worse. Dr. Jasmine Kelland, a Lecturer in Human Resource Studies at Plymouth Business School and author of Caring Fathers in the Workplace – Organizational Experience and Parental Abandonment, is uniquely placed to discuss the socio-economic difficulties described by Kieran. “The desire to buy a house is a significant factor in delaying parenthood in men,” she explains. “The way we buy homes has changed, the days of 100% mortgages are long gone and the need to save up a substantial deposit could lead to delays in parenthood. I suspect the cost of living woes are men. will affect the timing of paternity.
disposable income is what I want to make
“For me and my partner, there are some steps we want to take before we stop and think about starting a family,” Kieran explains. “When I was young, I thought I was living life until I was 30, making all that money and being able to do what I wanted, but it didn’t come as quickly as I wanted to like. Now I’m making money. I’m trying to live a life that’s more selfish to me, I have disposable income to do the things I want to do – if I had a baby So could I continue to live that life? Maybe not.”